I had been revising a scene in my mind with an offending co-worker, mentally substituting "take that" for my lame "oh yeah?" In the end I got the last word but it started me thinking about how easily my mood can go from sunny to stormy with just one thought, and how that thought could rule my day. Pesky thoughts are eventually dismissed, usually around the time you've burned through all your friends on speed dial. Life-long patterns of negative thoughts, however, have the power to derail us for decades. They turn into belief systems and that can become a sizable challenge to reverse.
We are a hardy bunch. When discomfort and pain become prolonged, we learn to adapt our lives to accommodate the dysfunction. Living without enough money year in and year out, for example, leads to clipping coupons and shopping for off-season bargains as a way of life. There's nothing wrong with that -many turn it into a game - but in the quiet hours, when the root feeling behind the action is one of fear or sadness or depression, it's time to let go of a belief system that is self-defeating and replace it with a life-altering foundation for success .
One step you can take immediately to turn your life around is to stop telling the same story. Author and spiritual counselor, Carolyn Myss, calls it bringing out your woundology. In the above example, ask yourself if you've been telling your story of misfortune over and over to anyone who will listen. When your friends are going to dinner, do you say you can't afford a night out then follow up with what a tough year it's been and just when things were looking up, you got slammed with an unexpected expense? The subject could be money or unrequited love or weight loss, it doesn't matter. As long as you keep telling the same story of frustration and desperation, the Law of Attraction will deliver to you more of the same story.
You have the power to change that using the same principles of the Law of Attraction that delivered you to a dead end (the Law is funny that way, it has no investment in the outcome). You can reverse any negative trend - and even life-long patterns - by starting to tell a different story. My friend Abby refused to join her contemporaries in complaining about how slow business was when the economy went bust. "Business is good," she'd reply then go about her work day, expecting business to be good. When others were forced to close, she was expanding.
Abby's good fortune wasn't luck or timing or favoritism. Nor is yours or anyone else's. It's the deliberate use of one of the fundamental laws of the universe: Like Attracts Like. All creation begins with thought which pulsates into being through words. The final step in the creative process is to add feeling but the words we speak impact the feelings we have. Do you understand the link? Can you see how important it is to be conscious of the words you are choosing and the story you are telling yourself?
In the beginning, your new story may feel a little shaky to
you. Years of erroneous thinking about your finances or weight or love life
aren't going to vaporize into happy endings after a few tries. But stay with it and they will. Start small
with phrases that are believable to you..."I'm
beginning to lose weight, I know love is on the way, I always have more money
than I need in the moment" ...and build on them as the changes occur. In very short order, the rest of your life can
become the best of your life.
Excellent timing with this particular Tea Leaves lesson of life. Your remarks mirror many conversations I have had with friends over the years. It is amazing how life can change with words that can move us forward. Thank you, Gail!
ReplyDeleteYou are welcome my friend! I, too, have had many such conversations with friends over the years, which was the inspiration for this post. Some have advanced, some have not. I'm still a work in progress :)
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